Sunday 17 June 2012

Fetishes - the weird, the wacky, the wonderful.





Some people aren't sure if they even have a fetish while others think that their fetishes are abnormal (shows what they know... everybody has a fetish or two). So what is a fetish? If you have a fetish, you are obsessively fixated on either an object or a body part, or a little of both.

You need that specific something for sexual gratification. When you masturbate, you fantasize about that particular thing. Even if you have sex with a partner, you still need to fantasize about that object or have it present for you to get off.

For instance, if you're attracted to brunettes, that's one thing, but if you are unable to get aroused unless you're with a brunette, then you likely have a fetish for brunettes.


types of fetishes


There are many diverse kinds of fetishes, depending on the object being fetishized. Inanimate fetishes come in three varieties -- media, form and animate.

In a media fetish, material is what is obsessed over. Media fetishes include rubber, leather, latex, and silk.

With a form fetish, it's the shape of the object that has great significance. Stiletto heels, knee-high boots and lingerie fall into this category.

Feet, hair, butts, breasts, and all that good stuff are also considered fetishes, but since these objects are human, they're called "animate" fetishes.

People can turn anything into a fetish. There are different degrees of fetishism that go from mild to extreme. It's quite easy to tell whether your fetish is getting out of hand. Basically, if your fetish interferes with your relationship or your life, seek the help of a professional.




Stomachs

Men and women both agreed that taut tummies make them somewhat crazy. But others said that they would never bed a potential partner if their tummies protruded or hung loosely.

Some guys weren't as picky and admitted that they liked it when a woman had a tummy with a teensy-weensy little pot. One gentleman was very adamant about needing to release himself on a woman's stomach or his experience simply wouldn't be pleasurable.

 


Body piercing

This one was quite popular with the younger crowd (18-35). Everything from bellybuttons, tongues and nipples to eyebrows and penises was not only acceptable, but for a specific few, it was a prerequisite.

One guy told us that he loves tongue rings because after being pleasured by a girl who had one, he couldn't go back to the "ordinary." The feeling of the cool object rubbing against his penis while her hot mouth engulfed him "felt like heaven."

Leather, rubber, vinyl, latex

Men seem to love material; perhaps not the actual feel of it, but the rather pornographic quality it gives to a sexual encounter. Although men look to settle down with a sweet woman, most will forever have a fixation with that "bad girl" look.

"Watching a woman move around in anything tight and shiny is a tease in itself," says one gentleman. Another man told me that his girlfriend's entire wardrobe consists of latex and leather.

Domination and submission (my personal favorite)

To my amazement, most women dominate and most guys submit. HELLO! A lot of women said they love to order their men around in bed like slaves and spank them, smack them, and even penetrate them with a strap-on.

Guys, on the other hand, enjoy submitting to women and being told what to do. I guess most of them are probably tired of performing all the time. Everything I mentioned that the women do -- well, the men enjoy having those things done to them. Welcome to the new millennium.

Feet and hands

You knew this fetish was coming didn't you? Men enjoy licking, sucking, kissing, and biting women's feet almost exclusively. Some guys simply can't date a woman if she has ugly feet or toes.

Women, I was surprised to learn, love to suck on men's fingers and some can even orgasm off that alone. "There's something about pleasuring a man's finger as though it was a penis that gives me orgasmic pleasure," said one woman from Seattle.

Fingernails and lipstick

It's the cliche of the '80s: red lipstick and long, red-lacquered fingernails. Well, guess what? Some guys are still obsessed with that whole thing. They enjoy feeling a woman's nails running down their backs.

As well, they like kissing a woman and smudging her lipstick all over both their faces. Why? Because it gives them the feeling of having adulterated sex, i.e. sex with a prostitute.

Braids, ponytails, pigtails

Hair, it's no surprise, was a very big fetish among guys. Blond, brunette, redheaded, braided, long, short, thick, curly, straight... you name it, they thought of it. But braids, pigtails and ponytails caught my attention. I have two theories as to why some men are into pigtails.

First, they have a preference for younger women (to say the least) and because of the illusion that pigtails and ponytails emanate, the fetishists feel as though they are fulfilling their desires.

Second, when the hair is tied up in these various ways, it could resemble a whip, to a certain extent. "Women can whip me with their hair: the ultimate turn-on." said one man from Boston. I can definitely see the latter example as working.

Some women have a fetish involving no hair: bald men. They love rubbing a man's bald head whilst in a passionate embrace. Did you hear that Costanza ? You're actually preferred by women.

Water

Believe it or not, many variants of water were popular with both men and women. Many women declared that they enjoyed sex best when they could hear or be in running water. Whether it be rain, the shower or even an opened faucet -- so long as they heard water of some sort.

Although it's not exactly water, many women (and some men) absolutely obsess over thunder and lightning. "The powerful sound and the sudden flashes of light give my body a feeling of empowerment. My husband and I make plans to meet whenever we know that a storm is in effect," said a woman from Colorado.

Golden showers

I know this one doesn't sound very inviting, but it was a popular one. Some guys love to watch a woman urinate on them as a method of foreplay. Other guys like to relieve themselves on women before they can actually get down to business.

Why? Well, the reason for this also deals with submission. Being peed on is somewhat degrading and if you allow someone to do it to you, then you're submitting and if you do it to someone else, then they are succumbing to you.

Voyeurism and exhibitionism

A lot of guys admitted that they couldn't get off with their partner unless they were watching pornography or another couple in the act. Even if they witnessed two people having sex or caught some erotic movies on television accidentally (yeah, right) when not with their partner, they had to masturbate.

Only a minute amount of women admitted that they are voyeuristic to the point where they needed to see sex whilst engaging in it. Oddly enough, however, quite a few women like being watched . One woman from New Orleans wrote, "I make sure to open the blinds fully before I make love with my partner."



you're not alone

And there you have it, ladies and gentlemen; 10 common fetishes among the human species. While some fetishes can be seen as more "particular" than others, most people go through phases where they obsess about a certain object, act or body part. Fetishes are highly widespread and are not abnormal in any way.

1. SYMOROPHILIA

20 Strange & Disturbing Fetishes - SYMOROPHILIA
Arousal Contingent Upon Witnessing Or Staging Disasters Such As Car Accidents


2. DENDROPHILIA

20 Strange & Disturbing Fetishes - Dendrophilia
Sexual Interest In Trees


3. FROTTEURISM

20 Strange & Disturbing Fetishes - Frotteurism
Rubbing Against A Non-Consenting Person To Facilitate Sexual Stimulation


4. ENDERACINISM

20 Strange & Disturbing Fetishes - ENDERACINISM
Sexual Pleasure Derived From [The Thought Of] Tearing Out Sexual Organs By The Roots


5. MUCOPHILIA

20 Strange & Disturbing Fetishes - MUCOPHILIA
Sexual Pleasure Related To Mucus (E.G. The Consumption Of)


6. AUTONEPIOPHILIA

20 Strange & Disturbing Fetishes - AUTONEPIOPHILIA
Sexual Pleasure Derived From Dressing As (Or Imagining Oneself As) An Infant


7. GERONTOPHILIA

20 Strange & Disturbing Fetishes - GERONTOPHILIA
Sexual Preference For The Elderly


8. SALIROPHILIA

20 Strange & Disturbing Fetishes - SALIROPHILIA
Fetish Involving The Soiling Or Dirtying Of Others


9. URSUSAGALMATOPHILIA

20 Strange & Disturbing Fetishes - URSUSAGALMATOPHILIA
Sexual Interest In Teddy Bears


10. APTEMNOPHILIA

20 Strange & Disturbing Fetishes - APTEMNOPHILIA
Being Aroused And/Or Excited By Amputees


11. FORMICOPHILIA

20 Strange & Disturbing Fetishes - FORMICOPHILIA
Sexual Interest In Being Crawled Upon Or Bitten By Small Insects


12. VORAREPHILIA

20 Strange & Disturbing Fetishes - VORAREPHILIA
Vorarephilic Fantasies Commonly Involve Devouring Others Whole, Or Being Swallowed Whole By A Mate


13. ZOOSADISM

20 Strange & Disturbing Fetishes - ZOOSADISM
Sexual Pleasure Derived From Inflicting Pain Upon Animals, Or Seeing Them In Pain


14. AGALMATOPHILIA

20 Strange & Disturbing Fetishes - AGALMATOPHILIA
Fetish Involving Statues, Mannequins, Or Immobility


15. MECHANOPHILIA/MECHAPHILIA

20 Strange & Disturbing Fetishes - MECHANOPHILIA MECHAPHILIA
Sexual Attraction To Cars Or Other Machines


16. AVISODOMY

20 Strange & Disturbing Fetishes - AVISODOMY
Sex With A Bird


17. OCULOLINCTUS

20 Strange & Disturbing Fetishes - OCULOLINCTUS
Erotic Pleasure Stemming From The Licking Of Someone's [Attached] Eyeball


18. PSYCHROPHILIA

20 Strange & Disturbing Fetishes - PSYCHROPHILIA
Arousal Contingent Upon Contact With Extremely Cold Objects, Or Watching Others Freeze 


19. HIEROPHILIA

20 Strange & Disturbing Fetishes - HIEROPHILIA
Sexual Attraction To Religious Or Sacred Objects


20. CATHETEROPHILIA

20 Strange & Disturbing Fetishes - CATHETEROPHILIA
Sexual Interest In The Use Of Catheters


xoxox 

Eldiese



Sunday 10 June 2012

The Lives and Loves of Eldiese




Witney, Sammy and Sammy... My models from Carpe Noctum






Hello my muses, 

So this week i thought we'd get back down to the nitty gritty of what makes Eldieseme... The Makeup!

This week has been one of those amazing weeks where I have felt as thought all of my dreams have come true... so lets break it down to the best bits!



Monday was a shoot with the lovely Kate (Rocket)... if you'v come to see her perform, you will know that rocket is very classy and classic pinup and not at all into tacky or over the top... so she came to me with a fabulous concept and inspiration image, classic, beautiful and very her. Below is one of the behind the scenes shots... I have laid eyes on the raw images... and we are waiting with baited breath for the final images!!! 



Model: Rocket
MUA: Eldiese

So Kate rocks up to my house with a 1 kilo bag of MILK POWDER and we went to town on my bath tub! I made her up classic Pinup style... and Simone Sherrydan Snapped away like the fabulous photographer she is! This whole experience was made slightly scandalous by the appearance of Kate's nipples! (gasp)!


Watch this space for the final images!!! I can's wait to share them with you!!!


Friday was one hell of a day! Not only was I carrying around, quite possibly the worst hangover of my life, but I was hecticly busy, the Makeup portion began at 7pm... with the apperance of the Bad Ladies, one; Miss Deviant (Lissy), Sinister Rouge (Dayle) and Miss Scoprion (Vicki). "Oh, just another Burlesque performance" you say... Ha! Um... No! This was no mere Burlesque night! Not only were the girls going to perform (wearing my makeup!) at Abode, one of Melbournes most fabulous underground fetish clubs, but they were wearing the most amazing collection of latex garments deisnged by my friend Amanda from Deer Couture!


The beautiful Miss Deviant and me. 
Running around like a chicken with its head cut off, and doing the girls makeup in quite possibly the worst lighting ever, I juggle, makeup, hair, a troupe meeting AND performing. Once their makeup and hair was done the girls left me to perform in my own burlesque show, and headed to the venue to rehearse, where I would later join them with my fabulous assistant Eevie La Volpe (Erin). The involvement of so many talented Melbourne Locals was capped off by (causing of my own personal joygasm) the involement of Matchless Snapshots (Rachel), the beautifully talented photographer, who not only took many a photograph upstairs in the members only area, but also of the girls performing.... so I cannot wait to see how they turn out! 

Friday night was fantastic, kinky and a little naughty... and I loved every minute of it!!! so much so, that I found myself dragging my poor sorry arse home at three in the morning, with Friday's hangover long forgotten.

But it didnt end there!


By far the best and most exciting part of my weekend was Fiend Fest! More specifically, Carpe Noctum!

The idea behind Fiend Fest, besides raising hell, was to create a unique festival, encompassing all the best bits of the fashion, art and music worlds. And so it did.
Carpe Noctum and the Black Market were by far my favorite part of the the festival! Not only were the items of clothing and accessories unfucking believably creative and unique... but walking around...  Im looking at the posters and advertising paraphernalia thinking... oh my god, I did that makeup, and that makeup... it was fantastic! Needless to say, I spent way to much money... but in my defense, i bought the most amazing feathered black PVC arm guard from LeLash and a gorgeous turquoise feathered fascinator from DuskMoth at great discounts, so I can justify my purchases. 


My new arm bling from LeLash


So anyway, my purpose in attending Carpe, was to of course do makeup. The gorgeous models who got Eldiesed were those modelling the designs of Miss Porcelain Pinx (Bec) from Zombified Cupcake Boutique. Zombified Cupcake Boutique's designs are the perfect mix of Lolita and Girly goodness with a hint of sexy thrown in for good measure. Bec, the creative genius behind the label, and I have worked together a few times now, and I love her, because she gets me! My brief was edgy cute... so that's what I did, in the black market... with all the patrons watching me. 

Walking back stage where everyone was mingling, hair spray flying everywhere, makeup, clothes, nervous models, even more nervous designers it was amazing... I was straight into 'Eldiese Mode' chatting, hugging, kissing, networking, more chatting, brain storming, talks of collaboration... I loved it! The creativity, my friends, my peers, a room full of people that I admire and want to work with and vice versa.... the energy was just unbelievable. 

So I'v thrown in a few behind the scenes, and on the runway pics... 

The sexy dolly Sammy Sif Elise

The Gorgeous Dummy Whitney Duff

Me, Bec, and the girls!





I must admit, I had a little bit of a sentimental moment, when I was watching the girls walk the runway, being a back seat rebel with some of the best and most creative minds in my world including Mad DameVladimir S. Barski and Sillouhette D'Amoure and thinking about how much my life is exactly where I want it to be right now, and its only just beginning!


Oh, and one more thing happened this week...

I HAD MY FIRST PUBLICATION!!! weeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!




I was published in Illusion magazine! Yup! My Medusa piece was chosen for publication!!! So a HUGE thank-you to my splendifurous photographer AdamMiss Medusa herself Megan, and my ever useful assistants Sammy and Dan... who helped me and put up with my insane sleep deprived mood swings during and after the shoot. 


So in celebration of all the fabulousness that's happened this week... and just in general... I bought myself a present....



So, now you have no excuse for not knowing who I am... because its around my neck. 

xoxox

Eldiese






Sunday 3 June 2012

Daddy Issues and the Women who have them





Photographer: Adam Bell-Ghijben
MUAH: Eldiese
Model: Eden



You’ve heard of the Oedipus complex, right? According to Freud, it is the theory that every man secretly wants to kill his dad and have sex with his mum. (I know. That’s totally disturbing behaviour.) But have you heard of the Electra complex.The Electra complex denotes a woman’s sexual attachment to her father and a corresponding competitive hostility toward her mother. It’s from the Electra complex that we’ve derived the modern concept of “daddy issues.” Now I'm not saying that women with daddy issues want to have sex with their fathers (cause that would be extremely creepy).These days, people say a woman has daddy issues when she appears to be seeking attention from men in order to compensate for the attention she may not have received from her father. When we talk about her daddy issues, we’re generally talking about things like aggressive flirtation, promiscuity, a tendency toward exhibitionism, and certain emotional hang-ups.


I am the queen of daddy issues, my friends and I get on stage, many of them taking their clothes off, I am a perpetual flirt, and I by no means do it on purpose (well most of the time), I am extremely clingy (which bugs me more than it bugs my partners, trust me, because there is nothing I hate more than clinging to a man) and at the slightest sign of attention from a man (whether it be a smile, a slight flirt, or just genuinely nice guy being his usual nice self, my daddy issues kick into overdrive... 

Whether her daddy issues are actually the result of her relationship with her father or whether “daddy issues” is just the label society has chosen to attach to this kind of behaviour, it is a set of characteristics you might encounter in a woman. Consequently, you need to know how to recognise her (and my) daddy issues and how to handle them.


Sexual aggressiveness

Most guys delight at the idea of a sexually aggressive woman. But if a woman is grinding up against you on a dance floor, initiating public groping and dragging you into her bedroom on the first date, this may equal daddy issues. If you’re up for a one-night stand, woo-hoo! you hit the jackpot! But if going to pound town isn't the only thing you’re interested in, your strategy should be to take things slow. Even if her sexy signals are overly aggressive, tell her you want to slow down and get to know her before doing the deed. Show her you’re interested in more than just sex and she won’t feel quite as desperate to impress you with her sexual prowess.


Excessive flirting 

It’s a stereotype that girls with daddy issues flirt a lot (and I do). And maybe it was even her flirting that got your attention in the first place. Once she’s your girlfriend, though, flirting with strange men is not going to fly.

It’s important to recognise that not all women flirt because they’re interested in the guy they’re talking to, I personally dont even know I'm flirting half the time, but i know I do it constantly. Your girlfriend may be flirting because she craves attention and enjoys the rush of developing sexual tension with a stranger. 




Clinginess

We typically apply the “daddy issues” label to women who seem to crave male attention -- and ploys for male attention can take many forms, including clinginess. Every woman wants care and assurance from her partner. But a girl with daddy issues wants those things in excess, whether its because her father was never around, or he was just an arse and never paid her enough attention. She may throw a fit whenever you make plans without her. She might beg and bargain whenever you try to leave her apartment. Be careful with clinginess, if you give in to a bout of clinginess once, you’re sunk forever.



Compare and contrast

It’s fair to say that a woman’s relationship with her father affects her romantic relationships. If her dad failed to show her love and affection, she might grow up expecting the worst from men. If you find her blowing up over minor screw-ups, it might be because your mistake reminds her of her father’s poor parenting.

The key in these situations is to make your partner aware of these unfair comparisons. You are not her father, for better or worse. You can only be yourself; show her the reliable, attentive and caring guy you are, and eventually she’ll stop blaming you for someone else’s mistakes.



if only women were so simple

We recognise that diagnosing a woman with “daddy issues” is necessarily an oversimplification, but the fact is that “daddy issues” have become cultural shorthand for a set of behaviours exhibited by some women. If you’re a guy, whether or not you consider these behaviors to be “daddy issues,” you still need to be aware of what they look like and how to deal with them.




xxx
Eldiese


Saturday 26 May 2012

Being Sexy in the 21st Century



Photographer: Adam Bell-Ghijben
MUAH: Eldiese
Model: Eden


I was meandering along Brunswick St (Melbourne) a few days ago, and I happened upon an interesting conversaion... walking infront of me, were two reasonably attractive females (well reasonablly atrractive to me, but we'll get to that later) who were discussing just that, heir atractiveness. 


The first woman (at biggest a size 14) was complaining tha her thighs were too big, and the second, a woman with the most amazing legs I have ever seen, was complaining that she wasn't sexy enoough to attract attention from the oposite sex... and then proceeded to explain to her friend that that was why she wore low cut tops. My judgement of these two females was cut short after this last comment, as I realised that I too, had been guilty of getting the girls out for the boys just to get a satisfactory glance on a firday night, I mean hell, I live my weekends in steel boned corsets. However as she and her friend began comparing aspects of their physical appearance that were the least sexy, I thought, "There aare people in the world with all kins of kinky and extravigant fetishes for the weird and wonderful, so how is it, that the two of you have never found someone who believes that you are sexy? And on that note, who decides what's sexy? And does it differe from person to person?"


To answer my questions, I turned to my friends, facebook and fetlife. I posed the question, "Who is your sex symbol and Why? and What do you find Sexy? 


And what did I discover from the World Wide Web? I discovered, not only is Marilyn Monroe the No.1 sex symbol out there, but that everyone, everyone had a different opinion of what was sexy. Whether it was a physical trait or personality trait, not one person answered in the same way. Answers included:


confidence tattoos curves eyes breasts  short hair good sense of humor
modesty      Smile flexibility intelligence      caring    honesty smell   age feet 
height  skin colour booty accents weight dirty talk   peircings   kink  cooking 


So long story short... stop comparing yourself to other women, I know its hard... and I do it as well, back stage at a show, commenting on the other performers and their bodies... but we have to stop! 


You are beautiful!!! believe it! Own it!


xxx

Eldiese

Saturday 19 May 2012

Things Women Want, But wont ask for...







Photographer: Adam Bell-Ghijben
Model: Cat Kali
MUA: Eldiese Mua


Women are complex and beautiful creatures, and as a result of their complexities

so many men have no idea what their doing when it comes to women. An astounding revelation I know. I am privy to this information as, I have not only experienced this first hand, but I am constantly told by my male friends "You sleep with women, you are a woman, HELP ME!". So here are my top tips on what to give your woman, because she will not ask you for them, and you seem kind of hopeless at figuring it out. 

  

1. Touch her waist. (Wrap your arms around it. It makes us feel safe and secure)


2. Actually talk to her.
3. Share secrets with her.
4. Give her your jacket.
5. Kiss her slowly.
Are you remembering this?
6. Hug her.
7. Hold her.
8. Laugh with her.
9. Give her flowers
10. Hangout with her and your friends together.
KEEP READING ..
11. Smile with her.
12. Take pictures with her.
13. Pull her onto your lap.
14. When she says she loves you more, deny it. Fight back.
15. When her friends say “I love her more than you”, deny it. Fight back and hug her tight so she can’t get to her friends. It makes her feel loved.
Are you thinking of someone?
16. Always hug her and say I love you whenever you see her.
17. Kiss her unexpectedly.
18. Hug her from behind around the waist.
19. Tell her she’s beautiful.
20. Tell her the way you feel about her.
One last thing you need to do to show her you actually do mean it.
21. Open doors for her, walk her to her car - it makes her feel protected, plus it never hurts to act like a gentleman. The 21st Century is seriously lacking in gentlemen.
22. Tell her she’s your everything - only if you mean it.
23. If it seems like there is something wrong, ask her - if she denies something being wrong, it means SHE DOESN’T WANT TO TALK ABOUT IT - so just hug her
24. Make her feel loved.
25. Kiss her in front of OTHER females you know & hold her hand!
WE MIGHT DENY IT BUT WE ACTUALLY LIKE AND KINDA WANT YOU TO TICKLE US ..
26. Don’t lie to her.
27. DON’T cheat on her. (this seems like a given, but most of you are stupid enough to have done it at one point or another)
28. Take her ANYWHERE she wants.
29. Text message or call her in the morning and tell her have a good day at school/work, and how much you miss her already.
30. Be there for her whenever she needs you, and even when she doesn’t need you, just be there so she’ll know that she can always count on you.
ARE YOU STILL READING THIS? YOU BETTER BE, BECAUSE IT’S IMPORTANT.
31. Hold her close when she’s cold so she can hold you too.
32. When you are alone hold her close and kiss her.
33. Kiss her on the cheek; (it will give her the hint that you want to kiss her).
34. While in the movies, put your arm around her and then she will automatically put her head on your shoulder, then lean in and tilt her chin up and kiss her lightly.
35. Don’t ever tell her to leave even jokingly or act like you’re mad. If she’s upset, comfort her.
REMEMBER ALL THESE THINGS WHEN YOU ARE WITH HER NEXT ..
36. When people insult her or spread rumors, stand up for her.
37. Look deep into her eyes and tell her you love her.
38. Lay down under the stars and put her head on your chest so she can listen to the steady beat of your heart, link your fingers together while you whisper to her as she rests her eyes and listens to you.
39. When walking next to each other grab her hand.
40. When you hug her, hold her in your arms as long as possible.
MAKE SURE SHE KNOWS SHES LOVED.
41. Call or text her at night when not with her to wish her sweet dreams.
42. Comfort her when she cries and wipe away her tears.
43. Take her for long walks at night.
44. Always remind her how much you love her.
45.Straddle the top of her and tell her how much you love her and then bend down to her face and kiss her while you’re still on top of her.
(These are several sweet things real men use to do, its said that these things are rarely done and that the days this treatment are seemingly gone...)

SO there! I hope you'v learnt something. 

Xx 
Eldiese